Tuesday, February 03, 2015

Some Stuff and Shyness

We had a very laid back weekend this past weekend that I was in desperate need of. I literally laid on the couch most of the day Saturday.  Scott grocery shopped for me and the girls played together for HOURS without fighting and Scott and I watched the Passion Conference online in Houston.  I heard probably one of the best sermons I have heard in forever by Christine Caine Saturday afternoon.  She came on right after David Crowder sang so it was pretty much amazing.  You can still watch it here:
http://live.passionconferences.com/p2015-hou-session-3-replay/  and I'm just going to throw in a ton of "AMENS".

 We had a SUPER low key Super Bowl Sunday party.  We went over to Laurie and Steve's.  Scott and Steve had planned out our food for weeks.  We ate and they watched the game.  Our girls played and did makeovers and dressed up and had a lot of fun together.  And Laurie and I sat at their dining room table and talked and never once looked at the TV and she somehow talked me into polishing her silver.  ha! And she was OF COURSE wearing her robe.  

And I have a question for all of you moms - especially moms of GROWN children.  Hollis is the sweetest, funniest little girl and has the cutest personality and the cutest dimples and you can't help but just fall in love with her but she is EXTREMELY shy.  She talks to Harper and us constantly but she won't say a word to anyone else.  NOT A WORD! I'm okay with her being shy and quiet and I don't think that's a bad thing but I don't want her shyness to keep her from having friends or from doing things she would like to do.  I'm not even sure how to put that into words properly but I just don't want it to hinder her and I want people to know what a funny little person she is.  

My main question is when adults speak to her (and I don't mean strangers - I mean my friends she knows well or preschool teachers and church workers she has known her whole life) - she refuses to even look at them much less speak.  How did you handle this? I know she is just four but I want her to know that's rude behavior.  I don't want her to have to carry on a conversation but I want her to at least say "hi" or "thank you".  How did you handle this if you had a shy child?

And I feel like I've already messed up terribly because I feel the need to explain to people when she refuses to speak "that she's shy".  But now I feel like she's heard me say that and she has just taken that on like it's who she is.  And I don't want that! So I'm trying to handle it a different way but I honestly don't know what to do.  I don't want to force her to be someone she is not or be outgoing if she's not.  But I want her to  try and speak to others. 

She's just the most amazing girl and I don't want her to live in a shell.  Talk to me moms of shy kids.  Do something or just let it go?

(I want to add that she DOES have a couple of friends she talks to and she has warmed up to her preschool teacher and talks to her.  And she can be a live wire with her grandparents.  She also has a sister who is a HUGE extrovert who is her security blanket.  She talks when she is around - even to strangers.  I know she may be a quiet introvert and the world does need those!!!! I don't want to change her - I just want to encourage her! )

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