Wednesday, September 11, 2013

That 10 letter ugly word

I was talking to a friend this week about things that affect women.  Isolation, Loneliness, Feeling overwhelmed..........these seemed at the top of the list of challenges we women face.

But the thing we agreed seems to be the biggest challenge to women is a 10 letter word that can completely destroy your happiness and self worth:


Do you suffer from it? 

It's impossible not to.  This crazy Internet world we all live in - we are bombarded with pretty pictures on facebook, updates about amazing vacations, new homes, brilliant children, Prince charming husbands.  We take a look at our own lives and we can't live up.  

Suddenly the homes we love look small and dirty and cluttered.  Our husbands seem unromantic and boring. Our wardrobes are small and our bodies are not what we wish they could be.  We trade in our love for our best possessions for wishes of things we think we want but really don't exist. 

How do you fight it? How do you keep the comparison game away? Do you count your blessings? Do you find joy in the mundane?  Do you get perspective by looking at those less fortunate or remembering how lucky you are to have what you DO have? Do you look for gifts each day like Ann Voskamp challenges?

I've seen a blogger recently who is writing a series on loving her 1000 sq ft home that she shares with her husband and four kids.  What a refreshing thing to just love where you are!

I'm turning 40 soon.  My hair is gray. I have wrinkles around my eyes.  My body does NOT look like a college co-ed anymore.  It can be a little depressing. And then I think about classmates from high school and college who are gone already.  I'm lucky enough to still be here to enjoy my friends and family - that is worth all the wrinkles I have acquired.


Fight the urge to compare yourself to other women, to other moms, to other wives.  God created you to be YOU.  He made you with the crooked nose or wide hips for a reason.  He made you the mom of your kids because he knew you would be the BEST mom for them.  He paired you with your husband because he knew you would be the best help mates for each other.  He has you living where you are for a reason.  He wants you to find joy in where He has you.

How do you stop comparing and start being happy in your circumstances?

 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.  Galations 1:10 

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